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How This Introvert Accidentally Networked His Way from Scratch to a 6-Figure Consultancy

how to get clients - consultingIt was done. Over. Finished.

The business that I had worked so hard to start, fund, and build was officially dead.

Customers had been told, employees had been let go, and investors had been notified.

All that remained was me.

Plus, a substantial amount of debt to keep me company, along with questions that kept me up at night, and gnawed at my soul.

How would I pay my bills?

Should I quit this whole entrepreneurship thing?

Should I (gasp!) think about getting a job?

Painted into the Entrepreneurial Corner…

How to get clients - debt

It soon became clear that most of those questions were moot.

The “get a job” idea, for example, was a non-starter.

Back then I wasn’t particularly credentialed or qualified… and even if I found something in the higher end of the market value that I thought I could command, it wouldn’t have been enough.

Even if I put every cent of my disposable income toward repaying the debt, after taking out taxes, rent, groceries, and other minimal living expenses, it would take me a couple of decades.

So that was a no-go.

And even as an entrepreneur, I had my limited options.Click To Tweet

And even as an entrepreneur, I had my limited options.

I definitely couldn’t start something big and elaborate that required venture funding. Even if there had been capital to be found back then (and there wasn’t), I had run myself ragged building that kind of business and didn’t have the appetite to do it again.

And while I liked the idea of someday building something scalable and online (like the business that eventually grew up to become Mirasee), I knew the economics just didn’t work in the short-term. Put simply, when you need a large amount of revenue in a short period of time and don’t have a substantial audience with which to do it, you can only count on getting a small number of customers—which means the price of whatever you sell has to be high.

In other words, selling low-priced e-books or courses to thousands of people was a great vision for later, but until I was in a position to reach thousands of people, I needed something with a higher yield in a shorter amount of time.

The only real choice I had was to build a service business, selling the highest-value expertise I had to offer.

How does one go about building a high-dollar service business—from scratch?Click To Tweet

But how does one go about building a high-dollar service business—from scratch?

Putting Myself Out There, Version 1.0

How to get clients - networking event

To make sales, you need to meet people who could potentially be interested in buying whatever you’re looking to offer.

So I did what everyone does in that position: networking.

I signed up for every available opportunity: Chamber of Commerce events, BNI breakfast meetings, entrepreneurial cocktail mixers, and everything in between.

I went in with visions of meeting all the right people, shaking their hands, handing out business cards, and sweeping them off their feet with a clear and succinct one-liner about what I do, that would quickly lead to whipped out wallets and outstretched credit cards.

But it didn’t work out that way.

Approaching people was awkward. Offering unsolicited business cards felt icky. My elevator pitch was long, clunky, and unclear. I couldn’t even get it out because the question of “what do you do?” was always semi-rhetorical. Nobody was ever really interested, and none of it led to business.

This experience repeated dozens of times each night, under constant pressure to “work the room.”

It was uncomfortable.

It was frustrating.

And as an introvert, I found it incredibly draining.

None of it was working, but thankfully a better and smarter strategy was just around the corner….

The Accidental Pivot:
Putting Myself Out There, Version 2.0

It was almost imperceptible at first and completely accidental.

The way I was working wasn’t working—but still, I figured that as long as I had bills to pay and no better idea, I should keep working on the best idea I had, until something changed.

And something did change: the way I was going about it.

It wasn’t a premeditated strategy, so much as a natural avoidance of things that were unpleasant.

So I stopped handing out business cards nobody had asked for.

I let go of the pressure to “work the room.”

And I stopped delivering the elevator pitch. When someone asked me what I did, I literally changed the subject!

(Hey, the elevator pitch wasn’t working for me anyway, right?) 😉

Changing the subject was the first step in a much more lucrative direction….Click To Tweet

Little did I know that changing the subject was the first step in a much more lucrative direction….

“Enough About Me, Let’s Talk About You”

I brushed off questions about what I do with a quick, perfunctory answer, “I’m a writer,” and pivot the conversation to focus on the person in front of me:

“I’m actually much more interested in you, and what you do. Tell me about that.”

And the business cards? They stayed in my pocket unless someone asked for one.

This was a powerful pivot.

Soon I found that my mental stance going into a networking opportunity was less about “might there be people here who will pay me some money?” and more about “might there be interesting people here to meet?”

To my pleasant surprise, I found that once I let go of the urgency to turn every contrived conversation into a sale, many of the people I met were, in fact, interesting. So much so that I wanted to hear more about their work and their stories.

There was just one little problem: we were at a loud and crowded networking event, and they were there to meet as many people as they could.

Clearly, continuing the conversation necessitated a change of venue….

An Invitation to Coffee and an Offer to Help

How to get clients - be interested in others

I wanted to continue the conversation.

If we clicked, I wanted to deepen the relationship.

And I wanted to be helpful.

To accomplish all of those things, after a short introductory conversation in which I just wanted to see if there might be something interesting about them to explore further, I would say something like this:

“That sounds really interesting. I know that you’re here to meet other people too, but I’d love to learn more about what you do and see if there are resources or clients I could send your way. How about if we continue this conversation over coffee sometime in the next couple of weeks?”

They invariably said yes and handed me a business card. A simple follow-up would soon have us in a coffee shop together—a much more comfortable setting for me than a crowded networking mixer!

Now, the bit about offering to make introductions was part wishful thinking that might tip the scales in favor of a meeting, part genuine desire to be helpful, and part self-fulfilling prophecy—simply because the more people I got to know deeply, the more I started seeing the potential connections between them.

Making those introductions was an easy way of helping out and building goodwill. Before all too long, something strange happened. I found myself at the epicenter of a network of entrepreneurs and service providers… all connected within this little community that had cropped up around me!

Almost overnight, I was now seen as helpful, influential, and even important.Click To Tweet

Almost overnight, I was now seen as helpful, influential, and even important.

And that wasn’t even the best part! Those lengthier conversations, that started with my deep curiosity about them, invariably ended up taking the same turn….

“Enough About Me, Let’s Talk About You” (But in Reverse!)

There’s only so long that you can go in a conversation focused on one person before, out of genuine interest, or just politeness, the tables get turned.

In other words, after talking about them, they wanted to talk about me.

They asked what I did, and this time they really wanted to know. So whereas it used to be hard to hold someone’s attention for 30 seconds of a clunky elevator pitch, now we engaged in a 30-minute discussion of what I did, who I served, and how my work made their lives better.

Lo and behold, that deep exploration into my work started leading to sales and referrals!

It began with one sale, and then another. Then an introduction to a colleague who needed exactly what I offered. It felt easy, smooth, and serendipitous. And for the first time in a while, I had money left in my bank account at the end of the month.

I had unintentionally hit on a winning strategy, and it was time to add a healthy dose of…

Adding Intentionality to the Mix

How to Get Clients Step-by-Step

This all started as a way of showing up and doing the work that needed to be done, but without the awkward and uncomfortable parts.

But when it all started working, and I saw the dots beginning to connect, I doubled down on the strategy. More networking events, more breakfast meetings, more cocktail mixers, but with a very clear strategy and plan: ironically, I found myself “working the room”—but differently.

My process looked something like this:

  1. I would systematically work from person to person, introducing myself quickly and then asking about them.
  2. I was looking to quickly see whether they might be interesting in some way or not. If not, I just waited for them to lose interest in the conversation (which usually didn’t take long) and moved on.
  3. If they were interesting, I suggested we reconvene over coffee and got their contact information.
  4. After the event, I followed up and setup the coffee appointment.
  5. Meeting in person, I just focused on them: asking about what they did, listening deeply to the answers, and looking for ways to help through introductions and connections I might make within my growing network.

This flywheel started turning faster and faster, with more and more coffee meetings, more inquiries about my work, more referrals, and more paying clients.

Two years after I called “time of death” on my startup, I was earning six figures...Click To Tweet

Two years after that fateful moment where I called “time of death” on my startup, I was earning six figures, with a process that was replicable, repeatable, and eminently suited for those of us who aren’t comfortable with the glad-handing of a slick networker or salesperson.

It worked for me, and I hope it will work for you, too. So follow the same steps, reap the same results, and enjoy the journey along the way!

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About Danny Iny

Danny Iny (@DannyIny) is the CEO and founder of Mirasee, host of the Business Reimagined podcast, and best-selling author of multiple books including Engagement from Scratch!, The Audience Revolution, and Teach and Grow Rich.


  1. Joel says:

    Danny!, what an inspiring story. Fascinating how you listened to yourself, how you respected what didn’t feel right to you in ‘how it’s done’ (networking), and organically developed your own authentic way of engaging with people you resonate with and who appreciate you and what you have to offer. That’s the world I want to live in. I’m grateful to be a new member of your community through the Business Ignition Bootcamp and through my sister’s new online offering through the Course Builder’s program. Keep up this amazing momentum.

    1. Danny Iny ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

      Hey Joel, thanks so much for the kind words – really excited that you’re part of this wonderful community!

  2. Geoff Peate says:

    I appreciate your re-frame. Helps me to understand that there is always ‘more than one way to skin the cat’. I was also intrigued by the rather organic nature of the change in your approach. Thanks for sharing your process; it helped clarify and summarise for me, and give me something I can work with and adapt to my own style. Thanks for the story and the insights.

    1. Danny Iny ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

      Hey Geoff, you’re welcome. And yeah – it’s interesting how so many discoveries happen half by accident – that’s why it’s so important to be willing to experiment, and pay attention to what seems to be working! 😉

  3. Stephanie Morrison says:

    I’ve been looking for more opportunities to get out to business events. I have been out to a few, but am reluctant as I have to push myself to “chat it up”. I use most of your strategy – asking people about what they do – and I’m genuinely interested in hearing about their business life. I’ll definitely use your approach to ask about meeting one- on- one, a setting where I’m more comfortable. Thanks for your insight, Danny! Always awesome.

    1. Danny Iny ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

      I’m glad it was helpful, Stephanie. Yeah, I think you’ll find that taking the conversations “offline” is the missing ingredient to really accelerating the results here. 🙂

  4. Phyllis Rodgers says:

    Danny it did not take me too long to see you are a man of INTEGRITY. That really impressed me. That character quality seems to be absent more than present in many communities and our culture. And then there was ACTIVE LISTENING. Yours seemed very genuine and again that is hard to find. I do believe part of the reason that is missing is we are busy with solitary behavior. We are not involved enough with others. We have virtual offices, games on our computer and tablets and often finish our days watching TV. When we are together we are starving for interaction and we are thinking “hey, look at me”. (Maybe that may not be true as much for introverts but I know it is for extroverts…especially Italians :O) Only a joke. I am one and I know the need for recognition even in our family!) Your GENEROSITY is apparent. Not many would give a way their trade secrets as you did at LIFT. Your MORAL COMPASS drove you to pay off the debt from your first endeavor. It must have seemed like climbing Mt. Everest at times – I relate to that at this time. I hope I can share with you when our debt has been paid off. This post is sounding like I am your PR person but I mean what I have written. As a person of faith I know God honors those who practice His principles. Thanks for hanging in there. Your book sounds like a good read.

  5. Bo says:

    Great strategy, Danny. Generosity, intentionality, others-centeredness, and depth – these are some of the keys to networking as an introvert. Thanks for sharing this insightful post.

  6. Carol Williams says:

    Danny, thank you for your wise wisdom gained from experience and sharing it with others. You provide much hope to those of us who aren’t comfortable “working the room” to garner clients…to having meaningful conversations and building a tribe.

    1. Danny Iny ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

      You’re very welcome, Carol. I still don’t love that sort of event, but I’ve found that these days, if I go into it with the right mindset, I can even enjoy it. 🙂

  7. Kathie York says:

    Encouraging … this shows me I AM on the right path!

    I like the quick pivot to, “Enough about me…,” though. I get there, but not that quickly. I’m going to change that up.

    Otherwise, this is my approach. I’ve been wondering if it’s the right one. Apparently, it is!

    Thanks, Danny!

    1. Danny Iny ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

      Hey Kathie, yup – it was counter-intuitive, but I found that the fast I pivoted away from myself initially, the faster I eventually got to a more productive place in the conversation. 🙂

  8. Yacoub Algsusane says:

    After another sleepless night struggling through the same questions, seeing this post was like a message intended for me personally.

    Inspiring because it confirms that it is possible to make my dreams a reality; and because you gave me some practical advice.


  9. Brian Loebig says:

    Great insight into yourself and your personal networking approach Danny! I follow a VERY similar strategy when attending networking events and focus on others instead of myself as well. It reminds me of Stephen Covey’s “Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood” principle which has helped me grow my business 4 times over in the last 5 years as well! p.s. I love that ‘click to tweet’ feature in your blogs. I’ll be adding that to mine. 🙂

    1. Danny Iny ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

      Thank you, Brian – I’m so glad this resonated so well with you. It’s one of these “little known secrets” of marketing that, when you start talking about it, so many people who’ve quietly been doing the same thing (and with great success) start coming out of the woodwork!

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