Perfectionism: Friend or Foe? (Joy Torchia)
- Episode #12
Episode summary: A common perception is that perfectionism is the same as striving to be your best. Joy Torchia, the founder of Torchlight Life Design Coaching & Consulting, thinks it’s a trait to become aware of and overcome. But is there any situation in which perfectionism can serve you? Can perfectionism be a friend? Or is it always a fear-based foe? And why is it so hard to change the pattern of perfectionism that is blocking you from moving forward?
In this episode, Melinda Cohan talks to Joy about perfectionism and how it impacts our coaching businesses. Joy believes that giving grace and space is important when dealing with perfectionism, but also believes that we should keep pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones. As she says, “There’s no comfort in the growth zone, and there’s no growth in the comfort zone.”
Joy is a certified personal development coach and a well-respected and award-winning communications strategist.
In this episode we discuss:
- What is perfectionism and how does it present itself?
- What is a fixed versus a growth mindset, and how do they relate to perfectionism?
- Is there any situation in which perfectionism can serve you? Can perfectionism be a friend?
- Why is it so hard to change the pattern of perfectionism that is blocking you from moving forward?
- Can perfectionism be self-diagnosed?
“Perfectionism is not the same as striving to be our best. It’s not about healthy achievement and growth. Rather, it’s driven by this fear of failure.”Joy Torchia
Guest Bio: Joy Torchia, the founder of Torchlight Life Design Coaching & Consulting, is a certified personal development coach and a well-respected and award-winning communications strategist.
She helps her clients tap into their potential, power, and presence to achieve their individual goals and truly live a life they love. She’s also a certified coach at Coaches Console and an Aces coach at Mirasee.
She has helped organizations to identify their core issues and missions and worked with staff to articulate the key outcomes they desire. She also works with people who are experiencing important life transitions and/or are growing into a new life phase and expression of themselves. Ultimately, everyone is leveling up and moving into a new phase in their lives.
Joy brings many years of experience in working with nonprofits, philanthropic organizations, small businesses, educational institutions, and other organizations that operate with limited budgets and resources.
Coach Experience, Training, and Certification Includes:
- Mirasee ACES Coach–Entrepreneurship Business Acceleration Program
- Coaches Console Coach–Coaching Business Systems Coach
- LHH Certified Career Transition Coach
- Coaches Training Institute–Certified Co-Active Professional Coach
- The Ford Institute for Integrative Coaching–Certified Spiritual Divorce Coach
- Positive Intelligence Coaching for Mindfulness and Mental Fitness
- Strengths Strategy Coaching–People Acuity.
Resources or websites mentioned in this episode:
- Mirasee
- Coaches Console
- Joy’s website
- Joy’s LinkedIn
Credits:
- Guest: Joy Torchia
- Host: Melinda Cohan
- Producer: Cynthia Lamb
- Executive producer: Danny Iny
- Writer: Michi Lantz and Melinda Cohan
- Assembled by: Michi Lantz
- Audio Post Supervisor: Evan Miles, Christopher Martin
- Audio Post Production: Post Office Sound
- Music soundscape: Chad Michael Snavely
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